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Sierra LaMar: Anatomy of a Search Day 30

My wife Violet says that Krystine reminds her of me. In a certain sense that may be so. However, Krystine is much younger, much prettier and probably much smarter than me.

Krystine Dinh is one of the most knowledgeable volunteers at the Sierra Search Center. She is a problem solver, an organizer and a good friend. When Krystine is present people gravitate to her to talk, walk, or to simply sit in silence. Unfortunately Krystine’s knowledge and empathy were not easily achieved as they were born of personal experience.

On May 17, 2011, her devoted cousin Michelle Le disappeared while taking nursing classes at Kaiser Hospital in Hayward, CA. That event thrust Krystine and her family into the arena that none of us are prepared to enter, yet are expected to master. It’s never easy to stare into the abyss, particularly when the wind is forcefully pushing at your back and especially when one of the people you love the most is unexpectedly missing and thought to be deceased.

So, how do you reconcile the chaos of violent crime with an orderly world and a life plan that now litters your path like shards of broken glass? One way to do that is to draw upon your experience and instinct and get busy trying to achieve that elusive reconciliation.

The first time I saw Krystine was on TV. She was facing a bank of television cameras responding to the disappearance of dear Michelle. She seemed cool, calm and collected — as if she’d been doing this all her life. Her words reassured those around her and she spoke with confidence. “Pretty good for somebody who is totally freaking out because her best friend and confidant had disappeared,” I thought.

About a week later I met Krystine, her cousin Michael Le and Michelle’s entire family. She had moved to the Bay Area to begin a new job the day before Michelle vanished. She seemed smaller, more fragile in person. The rest of the family lived in San Diego and had caravanned up to the Bay Area to find Michelle, and they needed help.

Instinct is a gift. It is different than intelligence, but equally as important in achieving success. Instinct helps you get your bearings in the storm and assists in navigating against a difficult tide.

Michelle’s family remained united in the midst of a ripping tide, but it was left to the kids, the first generation Americans, to navigate. Krystine belied her years and took the helm. She never wavered in her resolve, she never lost her cool and she commanded the respect of all.

It has been less than a year since Michelle disappeared. It took four months to find her. It has been less than eight months since Michelle’s remains were discovered. Yet Krystine and her remarkable cousin Michael come to the Sierra Search Center whenever they can. They have fought through the pain and the agony of loss and have emerged stronger and more focused for the experienced. Now they share the benefit of their experience with those facing a similar situation.

Krystine Dinh is one of the most knowledgeable and experienced volunteers at the Sierra Search Center. With her help we have conducted sixteen volunteer searches. We have deployed 6,134 searchers on 556 search assignments and blanketed a 20-mile radius around Sierra’s home. In all we have expended 30,936 hours and fed and supplied the entire enterprise on primarily donated food and supplies. 

My wife Violet says that Krystine reminds her of me. In a certain sense that may be so. However, Krystine is much younger, much prettier and probably much smarter than me. She’s also a woman and she is Asian. You know, in many ways Krystine reminds me of Violet.

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Mary Ann KannelyPuente May 24, 2013 at 09:24 pm
The other issue is if the Library is run by volunteers then union jobs will be lost. In other wordsRead More if the work can be done for free why pay someone.
Laura Case May 24, 2013 at 10:37 pm
Ken Simmons, I don't know who made you privy to the information that you have, but you should haveRead More checked your sources. The information you have posted here is inaccurate and misleading. Yes, it is due to budgets cuts and recommendations of the country fiscal advisor that all Library Clerk II positions have been eliminated, but note that it is all. And there was never a decision to pack up the books and put them in storage. On the contrary, the collection will stay intact, and will be covered and protected the same way it is every summer to prevent sun and dust damage. No parents have come forward to volunteer to run the library. Not one! And the decisions that have been made by the district are exactly that, the District's - the unions are not the problem here. If you want to stir up drama, try sticking to the truth, and try using it to make a difference and set things right for our students!
John May 31, 2013 at 11:42 am
Laura - I do not know what your position is or where your information comes from. With respect toRead More this particular issue, I have no knowledge, but as a former contractor whose kids went to public schools, I tried several times to clean up/repair/restore bathrooms, replace rotting windows and frames, etc. only to be told "NO", and not just no, but emphatically so. Only from the janitors and maintenance personnel could I find a rational reason, which was the protection of union jobs. Not really rational, however, as the maintenance people were all supportive of getting the work done (completely for free), as they admitted they would never,ever be able to get to it, even if they had the skills. Additionally, as a former tutor through the "No Child Left Behind" program, I think anyone would find it impossible to volunteer to do such a thing as tutoring - for pretty much the same reasons. Private schools thrive and blossom through the use of volunteers. Our area especially is overflowing with qualified people that could and would volunteer to help our schools. As the population ages, the available pool of potential volunteers will grow substantially. Many of the schools' problems could be addressed through the use of volunteers for everything from maintenance to kitchen help to tutoring and, yes, even teaching - god forbid. Will any of this happen? Not as long as the unions are primarily out for themselves and the districts are circling the wagons, both pretty much ignoring the needs of their students. Think about all of this the next time a school bond measure comes up. More money is not the answer. Far less money might help drive true results actually reflected in benefits to the kids.
R. Gabriner May 13, 2013 at 02:37 pm
Nice work Blanca. An excellent student in our program. Dr. Robert Gabriner, Director, EducationalRead More Leadership Doctoral Program San Francisco State University
Berto April 12, 2013 at 07:27 pm
From one of the interviews I watched online, it seems that many Saratoga High students knew whatRead More happened at the party and had seen the pictures. How is it that arrests did not follow the assault and the suicide for over 6 months? Could it be that the students who knew information about the felony chose to remain silent? I hope that is not the case; we will surely find out as the details of the case are revealed in the media over the next weeks and months. In the meantime lets make sure we are teaching our kids about the responsibility of living in community and caring about others. God forbid that any of the students have to live with the knowledge that they could have prevented the suicide, or with the knowledge that they helped cover up such a heinous crime.
Tamra~Kathleen April 13, 2013 at 05:51 pm
The offensive comment we're discussing shows a complete lack of respect for women that permeates ourRead More culture. That this person actually thought this poor young girl had culpability for her attack is a symptom of our societies disregard for women. I'm actually glad he made the comment so we can look at and discuss the problem.
Raymond Ruiz April 13, 2013 at 10:54 pm
It just don't matter how she dresses,whoo her parents are or aren't. Nobody and I mean Nobody hasRead More the right to rape or force a femsle to have sex with her,and then to make matters worse,they posted pictures of her on facebook ! Better we as a community should be asking,what would possess the young guys to do something like this ! That is why We have Our teenagers and kids passwords or no internet period ! As a parent my heart goes out to het and her parents !